Flirt in search of a partner.
Flirting is a method of nonverbal communication by which signals that the object of this flirtation is interesting to you are transmitted on an unconscious level. Psychologists believe that the right flirting is good for health and relationships.
“Flirting is the moment when we feel the anticipation of something. At this time, we remember our past relationships, which were just beginning to develop and mature. This gives us an inner thrill and the expectation that it will be even better in the future, ” says Ekaterina Kalchenko, an international NLP psychologist, an expert on self-confidence, money thinking and achieving goals. — At this moment, it really seems to a person that life is filled with bright colors, and the feeling of expectation awakens the chemical processes in our body. As a result, our brain begins to produce dopamine-the pleasure hormone. And we feel happy.”
It awakens the desire to live.
The essence of flirting is to be in a state of excitement, trepidation and pleasant excitement. Freud also wrote that man is controlled by eros and thanatos (fear of death). And in order for us to have the desire to live, we must feed it with sexual energy, and this will be possible only when we begin to feel that we are loved, desired and look attractive in the eyes of men.
What makes people attractive.
Flirting is a way to test mutual liking. When two people demonstrate their attraction in small portions, their attraction to each other increases, and they become more interesting for their half. A sense of necessity and desirability allows a woman to smile in a unique and mysterious way, playfully shoot her eyes and demonstrate her sexual energy with all her movements.
Women in the search for a couple need to be careful.
In order for flirting to do no harm, it must be a conscious decision of the woman. For a man, there is no two-digit interpretation of the fact that, for example, a woman stroked him on the palm, and it simply means “You are so good”. For men, there are no double-digit views. There is a look when a woman looks at a man as a door, and there is a look when a woman looks at a partner as an object of desire, says Ekaterina Kalchenko.
Therefore, you need to be careful with flirting, especially for those women who are looking for a serious relationship. If a girl flirts right and left, it will soon become a habitual behavior for her. In this case, for her, flirting will be both entertainment, and one of the ways of rapprochement, and an opportunity to increase her self-esteem, and a means for manipulation. Such women are very well seen in society, and men quickly read them — as a result, they try to build only short-term relationships with them.
If a woman wants her companion to take care of her and appreciate her, it is important not to show by flirting that she agrees to fleeting relationships. Therefore, in order to build a strong relationship, it makes sense to leave flirting at the moment when you are exactly ready to transfer the relationship to another phase, and then flirting will become a stepping stone to a new round of relationships.
For every couple, flirting is a must.
Unfortunately, in most cases, we associate flirting with singles. But it’s not. Flirting is an integral part of a strong relationship, so it should be present in every couple.
When a woman flirts with her husband, the release of mood-boosting hormones occurs not only in her body, but also in the body of a man. And therefore, with a good mood, a man’s performance improves and the degree of stress decreases. When a partner feels that he is being flirted with, he gains self-confidence and gets the strength for new beginnings.
“The skill when a married woman knows how to flirt with her husband is very important. First, it is an element of the game for two. A woman, playing, begins to show herself to her husband on the other side, and for men, the game is always a priority. Secondly, it is an opportunity to disconnect from everyday issues and raise both your self-esteem and the self-esteem of a man. After all, you will show that you are still interested in it. And this interest can be due to flirting always in the peak state, ” – says Ekaterina Kalchenko.
Conversely, non-flirting women confuse a man. She seems to be beautiful, and next to him, but she “does not smell like a woman”. A man, when he comes home, does not feel either approval or confirmation that he still likes his partner. As a result, he is lost, not understanding whether he is still in demand for this woman. And in order to stay afloat, he begins to look for more understandable signals from other women.
Coquetry outside of marriage.
Often, a woman, in order to increase her self-esteem or prove to her partner that she is in demand, decides to flirt with other men. But in this case, it is worth clearly understanding that men tend to perceive flirting as an invitation to further relationships. Therefore, to be understood correctly, even if you really wanted to flirt with a stranger, warn him that you have a couple. This can be done by saying that you are not free, but you are pleased with this person to smile, joke, but it is important not to switch to contact flirting and not even to provoke a man with a look. After all, even if you tighten your gaze a little, the flirting partner may perceive this as an invitation to go further.
And most importantly-when deciding to flirt, it is worth remembering: for women, flirting is a game where she can feel needed and loved. And for men – this is an invitation to intimacy.
Three ways to flirt in a relationship.
An unexpected date.
Invite your partner on a date, and without warning him about it in advance. It is important to arrange a rendezvous outside the house to avoid the usual territory.
Such flirting will help to return your couple to the starting point of the relationship, when you had a feeling of getting what you wanted. In this way, you bring yourself back to this pleasant memory, immerse yourself in a sense of anticipation and reawaken the passion.
“Secrets” in front of strangers.
Flirting in the company of friends will help to update the relationship between partners. For example, you sit at a table and whisper in each other’s ears some nice words. This way you get into your own separate world, and it brings you very close.
Approval through compliments.
Usually compliments are a way to please a woman. Men receive compliments several times less often, but they love them no less than ladies. And if a woman accepts, approves and is proud of her man — he feels his priority in her eyes, which means he is ready to prove to her again and again that he is the best.