Stop being afraid of girls.
Even in moments of happiness and sincere love, some guys begin to doubt the purity of their girlfriend’s feelings and begin to fear losing her. And sooner or later, it begins to take on an extremely depressing appearance, which does not affect the moral calm and physical ability to make love.
It is difficult to think about something positive and good, when you are haunted every day by the thought that tomorrow the girl can go to another, and you will be left completely alone. This provokes illogical, and sometimes completely thoughtless actions, jealousy and threats of violence, in extreme cases.
Naturally, no sane girl will not want to tolerate this behavior of her boyfriend and can really begin to doubt the feasibility of a relationship with such an insecure man. This will provoke a new wave of doubts and worries, and everything will again take a deplorable character. To avoid such a scenario, you need to consider a few tips.
Why relationships go bad.
It’s hard to believe, but almost every relationship eventually begins to crack at the seams, deteriorate and become a little more boring than they were at the time of acquaintance and formation. But the brightness and novelty do not pass without a trace. In their place comes understanding, trust and love. And this is perfectly normal.
But many guys who are used to seeing, and not feeling, begin to sound the alarm due to the fact that the girl is not so willing to go for a walk at night looking, she is not so diverse in bed, and in general began to discuss with you more their problems than the admiration of the relationship with you. In other words, men begin to worry about the fact that they no longer see the fire in their girls, and they do not want to accept the fact that the fire from the eyes turns into the warmth of the heart.
In this case, you only need to analyze the situation and honestly answer a simple question: “Does the girl see her future with you?” If the answer is “Yes”, then you should not worry and sound the alarm where it is not. If the answer is “No”, then you need to move on to active actions.
What you need to do not to lose the girl.
As a rule, in relationships, girls pursue fairly simple and understandable goals: whether it is a future family, recreation with entertainment, spiritual understanding or material support with gifts. And it is safe to say that one of these goals will always be much more important than all the others. And, therefore, you need to understand: “And what does a girl want from a relationship with you?”
If you clearly understand that you satisfy most of her requests and desires, then she can leave you only in extreme cases: treason, betrayal, physical influence or ordinary stupidity.
If you have problems with making your girlfriend’s demands a reality. So you either need to work on it, or find a girl who suits you better. Since sooner or later such a girl will still choose another man.
It is important to know and remember:
Men treat the manifestation of love quite simply – I love, I give flowers, I do pleasant things. I.e., a desire that turns into a result. Women, on the other hand, value the process more than the result. This means that small gifts every day will be more effective than a large gift once a year. The same goes for the expression of feelings, emotions, and sexuality. Women always need it, though in a small portion. Be able to use it!
Struggle with uncertainty.
Uncertainty most often arises from the fear that you may get into a situation worse than you have now. But the more indecisive you are, the worse your situation with the girl becomes. Because he is afraid of losing only the man who thinks that this is the only girl who agreed to be with him. The confident ones know that if not one, then the other, and the women see it and hold on! So you need to:
Money and perspective. Choosing between attentive and rich, most girls will choose a rich man, as with him there will be less problems in financial terms and more opportunities to prove themselves as a real woman. This means that you need to take some time to work on your financial situation and prospects. Successful women don’t go away!
Physical health. To be confident, you need to be happy with your appearance. For men, this most often lies in physical health and the volume of excess folds on the abdomen. Fortunately, now there are places where this can be solved quickly enough.
The audacity. A man should be a little arrogant, so that a woman sees in him not just a hero, but also a real conqueror. Therefore, you need to learn to put your interests a little higher than the interests of your girlfriend. And the main thing is to show it to her skillfully, so that she knows that everything will be fine, but your problems are solved first.
What we have in the end.
The fear of losing a girl is largely due to the man’s uncertainty and lack of understanding of the goals that the girl pursues. If you can take care of yourself, and understand the desires of the girl, then all the fears will pass, and you will become a real ideal for your chosen one.